Welcome to mom and dad are fighting slates parenting

podcast for Thursday April 26th, the Joyless Slog Edition.

I'm an editor at Slate and I am the father of Eliza who's seven and Leo who is three and three

quarters.

I'm Rebecca Lervoy, a podcaster and journalist in New Hampshire, and I am mom to my

stepdaughter Lily who is 17, my son Henry who is 16, and my other son Teddy

who is 15. And I'm Allison Benedict, also an editor at Slate, and the mom of Harry, who is 9, Sam 7, and Wally 5.

Carvel will be back with us next week. Today on our show, we have a question about teenage drinking, and we have another about how incredibly difficult and overwhelming it is to have two small children

Plus as always we'll have triumphs and fails. We'll have recommendations on slate plus

Rebecca has an update on her son's college search

and we'll perhaps have more details on his preference

for what I generously referred to a couple weeks ago as stupid crappy colleges first though it's time for

triumphs and fails.

Allison do you want to go first?

Sure I'll go first do it. I have a fail. It's sort of a global long-term fail, but it's been pointed out

more recently to me and clarified that it really is a true fail.

So my husband John and I, we have fairly different,

I wouldn't call them philosophies, but approaches to discipline.

His natural state is to think that every action that is out of line

requires a consequence.

And so he's like big, he punishes lot not anything like horrific but like go to your room no

dessert no TV that's like the way that he approaches bad behavior and I I feel like

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