Welcome to Nobody Told Me. I'm Laura Owens and I'm Jan Black. And our topic on this episode is one that has fascinated us for many years. And we're talking about how we

interact with strangers. We're going to explore why we don't talk to strangers, how we can,

and what happens when we do. Our guest is veteran journalist Joe Cohane, who's written for

New York Magazine, The Boston Globe, The New Yorker, Wired, and many other publications.

Joe's the author of a fantastic new book

called The Power of Strangers, the Benefits of Connecting in a Suspicious World. Joe, thank you so

much for joining us. Hi, Jan and Laura. Thanks so much for having me on. I'd just like to be here.

There are so many questions we want to ask. But first of all, why did you decide to write about this?

A couple of reasons.

For one thing, I realized a few years ago that I had just stopped talking to strangers, right?

So I was raised by very chatty people.

I grew up in Boston.

My parents talked to everybody all the time.

So I get to see, you know, growing up or being raised by them, I got to see the benefits of just like chatting with people all the time. So I get to see, you know, growing up or being raised by them,

I got to see the benefits of just like chatting with people all the time. They made friends.

They had adventures. It worked out really well for them. But a few years ago, I one day, it just

occurred to me that I had just cut out this entire category of human interaction from my life.

I was just not doing it, you know, and I never did it as much as my parents, but I still did it enough that I, you know, I enjoyed it and I found it enriching and fun and interesting. And so I started to wonder why I had stopped doing. And for me personally, the reason was kind of twofold. So on one hand, I had a young daughter and I had a demanding job and I just didn't have time or energy, right? Because when you,

when you have interactions with strangers, especially if you're out of practice, like it's,

it's cognitively demanding, right? You have to pay attention on a number of levels. It can be

kind of tiring, you know, it takes some work. And the other thing was just I had a phone, right?

And so all of those little like moments of friction that we used to have while like asking for directions or ordering a pizza or just like, you know, buying something from a human cashier in a grocery store, all that stuff kind of became optional, right?

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