We cannot be self-made people. We were not meant to be. We have a God who is our creator

and who also died to save us. And so who we are has everything to do with who's we are.

And it's so important that we lay that foundation, that we acknowledge that we have a God who

made us and how did he make us and how did he make us to thrive. We've got to be asking

that question.

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So I'm at this social event in this stranger who had just found out that I'm a marriage

author and a radio podcast marriage co-host comes over because she heard this and says,

so I'm in my second marriage. I have one question for you. What's the problem with marriage?

And I've got like 15 seconds to answer this. I remember this. Well, she didn't ask you.

She asked me, so what would you say? Well, years ago, I'd said, Oh, I know the answer.

It's my husband. I think a lot of women would say that. Oh, there's one problem in our marriage.

It's my husband. But that's not true. That's not what you said. Either is it? Well,

it sort of gets at what I said. I mean, I was like scrambling, but I look back at her and I said

selfishness. And the funny thing was I could not have scripted this. She looks back at me and

she goes, you are so right. My first husband was so selfish. And I looked at and I said,

I'm not talking about your first husband. I talked about you. And then I said, I'm talking about me.

I think when I said I'm selfish too, it gave me an audience. She's like, oh, let's talk.

But I think that is at the core of all of our problems, whether it be marriage or not.

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