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Hey, it's Rachel. Just a heads up, this episode contains a teeny bit of cursing.

How has grief shaped your life?

Entirely.

Entirely.

I almost see it as like an emotional lens, you know, like a contact lens or something

that goes over your eye.

It's not like a thing that happens that you sometimes feel.

It's like it's how you see things.

I'm Rachel Martin and this is Wildcard.

The game where cards control the conversation.

Each week, my guest chooses questions at random from a deck of cards.

Pick a card one through three.

Questions about the memories, insights, and beliefs that have shaped them.

You know, I'm not someone who I'm not really doing a bit, you know?

I'm really, I feel very sincere about the things we're doing and saying,

and I think a big part of that is just being confronted with time and fragility.

There is this unfortunate trait among some people who work in radio.

We tend to edit conversations in real time.

I know this because I am guilty of it.

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