ITL218: THE TALK: Ideas on When and How to Have It with Your Kids
In the Loop with Andy Andrews
Matt Lempert
4.9 • 614 Ratings
🗓️ 2 January 2016
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
On this week’s episode, I answer a listener question about dating and when it’s time to give your children “the talk.”
This week’s question is from a parent with two boys, so let me start by saying…
- I don’t think there’s anything more important in relationship-building than to tell those two boys how brothers act.
- Tell them your house is a laboratory they can use to become the kind of adults who can deal with all kinds of people after navigating through sibling disagreements.
There’s going to be plenty of time for boys to be wild-eyed about girls.
- 5th grade is not the time to press the dating issue.
- If your child has a friend of the opposite sex, don’t take them somewhere and tell them they are on a date.
- In my opinion, you are forcing something into this child’s head before it’s time.
You always want to have an open dialogue with your kids.
- I urge you to watch them closely, and watch the parents of your kids’ friends closely.
- Ask questions.
- Boys are much more comfortable talking while they’re doing something.
- If you can go throw the ball around or walk around the neighborhood—boys talk about these things much easier side to side than face to face.
- These activities give you a lot of time to talk, and you’ll be able to discern when the time is right to have “the talk.” The time is earlier rather than later.
Tune in to hear how Andy approached “the talk” with Austin, and how you can start influencing your kids’ decisions on finding the right partner for the future.
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective |
| 0:06.5 | with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews. |
| 0:10.4 | Now here's your host, David Loy. |
| 0:13.2 | Hi, and welcome to In The Loop with Andy Andrews. |
| 0:16.0 | I'm your host, David Loy. |
| 0:17.5 | Andy, we're together again in person, across the table from each other. |
| 0:22.4 | I'm sure there's a song. There you go. There is a song. And Polly's actually in the house as well. She's upstairs. |
| 0:28.6 | Polly's in the house. She's in the house. She has entered the building. I don't know. I guess I was just thinking about her. |
| 0:36.8 | She's going to come down here in a little bit, I think. I don't know. She and I was just thinking about her. She's going to come down here in a little bit, |
| 0:38.4 | I think. I don't know. She and Robert and some of the guys are going to go to lunch. |
| 0:42.8 | Pop in. Yes. Well, we're always glad when you guys are here and in town, and this is always fun to be doing |
| 0:47.9 | in person. But because she's with you this time, it got me thinking, this is just an odd little |
| 0:53.2 | question. Was there ever anything |
| 0:54.9 | that you have done on stage where when you came off stage, Polly kind of got on to you about it? |
| 1:01.4 | Oh, is she standing behind me right now? I promise you. Have I already said something today? |
| 1:07.3 | No, I just, I mean, you're so... Well, you know, she and I, we've been married 27 years. |
| 1:12.5 | And so I can, you know, occasionally, and it's not very often that she is in an audience, but occasionally she's in an audience. |
| 1:19.3 | And I have seen the look. |
| 1:24.3 | You know, like, we'll talk about this later. |
| 1:26.5 | Uh-huh. |
| 1:26.7 | That kind of thing, you know. And some of... And, you know, like we'll talk about this later, that kind of thing, you know. |
| 1:28.2 | And some, and, you know, occasionally, I guess, she, she has said, you know, I'm not, I'm not sure you |
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