ITL191: Respect: The Often-Ignored Gateway to Influence, Happiness, and Success

In the Loop with Andy Andrews

Matt Lempert

Business

4.9 • 614 Ratings

🗓️ 27 June 2015

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

On this week’s episode, I answer a listener question on how the boys and I go out of our way to make sure Polly feels respected.

Before we get into some of the specific ways we honor Polly, let me tell you why we think these things are important in the first place.

We want to provide an advantage for our children when they are adults.
The way you act in your home and when you let your guard down is the way you will act in critical moments.
We want to do the same positive things over and over again.
There are little bitty things you can do to make your home a happier place.

I love asking HR people and CEOs how they narrow down their search for new managers.

They’ll put the word out for a new position and let’s say you get 400 appli You bump most out immediately and have maybe 30 left.
You’re now seriously looking at resumes. The next round of 6 to 10 people is personal interviews. Now you’re down to 3 people and they’re all basically the same on paper.
You would be shocked at how many times their next step is, “I take them to dinner and watch them.” They will see who holds the door, who stands up when anybody comes to the table, how they shake hands, and how they treat the wait staff and each other.
Everything you do matters.

Since a lot of the time Polly is preparing the food, she is the last one to the table.

We will stand until she sits down and if she gets up, we will stand up again.
Also, if we are out to eat and someone comes over to the table, the boys and I stand up whether it’s a man or woman because you are honoring the presence of that person.
It may be unnecessary but it certainly is respectful.
We also hold Polly’s chair.
The boys learned at a very early age that ladies always go through the door

I’ve asked the boys, “How do you want your mom to feel? Do you want her to feel like the queen and that you respect and appreciate her so much?”

Tune in to the full episode to hear how to make sure your mother or wife knows you are thinking about her leading up to birthdays or holidays, and how to prepare your children to notice the kinds of things they should look for in a future spouse.

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0:00.0	You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective
0:06.5	with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews. Now here's your host, David Loy.
0:13.1	Hi, and welcome to In the Loop with Andy Andrews. I'm your host, David Loy, and...
0:17.5	Andy Andrews. I'm here, too. Yes. And the star of the show, you were talking the other day.
0:24.9	That sounds like a game show thing. And the star of match game. Gene Rayburn, do you remember Gene Rayburn? Go ahead. Anyway, go ahead.
0:32.3	I was going to say, have you ever, you've headlined, you've been billed in massive places, resorts, hotels,
0:40.0	Vegas, you've done it all.
0:42.6	What's the oddest way that you've ever been introduced?
0:47.2	Have you ever been, I mean, we talked a little bit about this with Jerry Jenkins a while back.
0:52.0	Yeah, I've been introduced in so many odd ways. The worst
0:55.2	introduction I ever had was on a cruise ship when they announced, the cruise director actually
1:02.3	announced that there was, had been an accident and people were wondering about it. And so
1:09.9	the cruise director, I'm backstage. I'm a comedian, right? and so the cruise director i'm backstage i'm a comedian right
1:12.4	and and so the cruise director actually announced that yeah this had taken a bad turn and the
1:18.2	person actually did die and it was awful and so yes the person died and we're going to put the
1:24.7	person you know we'll put the the the the address of the family and the person's office soviet but yeah going to put the person, you know, we'll put the address to the family and the
1:29.1	person of so of you, but yeah, you know, the person did die. And now here to make you laugh.
1:33.8	Oh boy. And I'm sitting backstage going, oh, please, no, no, really? Really? No. And so I've had that.
1:40.6	I've also had people, I've actually been in my dressing room and had people like run and beat on the door and go, they just introduced you. And I'm going, well, you know, they could have actually told me they were going to do that. They're going to give me a heads up. I'll really. We could do a whole show on that. That's funny. I don't know why i thought of that that's very interesting though okay hey let's get to this week's question we had a great
2:04.1	little uh kind of a follow-up question remember a few weeks ago we did an episode uh that talked a little bit
2:10.7	about you talked a little bit about how you and your boys stand up for Polly at the dinner table.
2:19.0	Yeah, somebody had heard the episode with Austin.
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