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In the Loop with Andy Andrews

ITL141: When does "The Buck Stops Here" NOT apply? (Response to a Tough, Heavy Question)

In the Loop with Andy Andrews

Matt Lempert

Business

4.9614 Ratings

🗓️ 12 July 2014

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

Before getting into our discussion, I wanted to give a shout-out to my friend Wes Hampton.

  • He and his family were over this past 4th of July weekend and we had a lot of fun grilling and watching the kids play.
  • Wes also has a Kamado Joe (plus his own cookbook), so we had a great cooking discussion.
  • Find Wes on Facebook or head over to WesHampton.com, and you can find his recipes there.

This week’s topic comes from a pastor who sometimes works with victims of sexual abuse, and what “accepting responsibility” would look like in this situation. One of the women he works with started reading The Traveler’s Gift and closed the book when she read to accept responsibility for your past.

Life is a series of advancing what we understand, or we kind of stop in a certain place and say, “That’s it.”

  • There was a time in most people’s lives when they had not acquired a taste for certain types of food.
  • If I had a chance to talk to her before she read The Traveler’s Gift, I would say, “Read the book with the same mind-set as you would have going into a cafeteria.”
  • They might have a lot of things you like, but you don’t leave when you see something you won’t eat.

Accepting responsibility for our past also means determining what we are responsible for.

  • The things we are not responsible for would certainly fall more into the forgiveness category.
  • At the age of 9, you would really have no choice if an adult imposed something on you.
  • I know this is a delicate situation and I don’t know all the circumstances, so this is more of just exploring ideas, but I do feel there is a certain age when responsibility to get yourself out of a situation falls somewhat to you.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective

0:06.5

with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews. Now here's your host, David Loy.

0:13.0

Hi and welcome to In the Loop with Andy Andrews. I'm your host, David Lloyd, and with me, once again, Andy,

0:20.0

how are you? Good, David. good David how are you man I am fantastic

0:24.1

things are moving along very fast up here it's been a great summer I know that you've been really

0:30.3

busy lately doing a lot of things with the family hanging out with some friends what's been

0:34.5

going on recently well we've been fishing the boys and I have been

0:38.1

fishing a lot and so that that has been just so much fun let me ask I know that they both love it

0:46.1

but Adam especially is just he wakes up and fishes sometimes oh my gosh you know Austin and I

0:52.6

we love to fish and Austin and I fish

0:55.2

when there's fish to catch. Adam will fish if there's water. You know, I mean, it's just,

1:02.0

but that kid could catch fish out of a mud puddle, I'm telling you, it's just bizarre.

1:07.4

I have so many stories of Adam catching fish, you know, when nobody else could. And we were

1:14.4

laughing the other day about a time that, you know, when Adam was probably about six years old,

1:21.4

that means Austin was probably about eight. You know, Austin would get a little bit out of shape

1:25.9

because Adam would catch fish. I mean,

1:30.0

he just would catch fish. And sometimes, you know, the rest of us would not be catching as many.

1:37.3

And I had to tell, you know, I would have to tell Austin stories about, you know, one time I was with

1:43.1

Uncle Kevin and Uncle Kevin caught all the fish.

1:46.5

Man, I didn't catch anything, but, you know, then sometimes I would go and I would catch them and Uncle Kevin wouldn't catch as many.

1:54.1

But, you know, I'm trying to tell stories like this.

1:56.7

But we were laughing the other day about a time at dinner that Adam, Adam's sitting at the end of the table.

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