ITL122: The New "Anger Management"
In the Loop with Andy Andrews
Matt Lempert
4.9 • 614 Ratings
🗓️ 1 March 2014
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
On this week’s episode, I talk about the new “anger management”—conflict resolution.
When I hear the term still used, I always think, “Anger management? Why would you want to manage something like that and not get rid of it?”
- You can defuse a conflict, but that doesn’t mean it’s over.
- If the underlying causes of a conflict are not dealt with, there really is no resolution.
Society believes two things about change.
- You must have a deep desire to change.
- You have to be at rock bottom.
However, I believe the two things people need are…
- An understanding of what’s in it for them.
- Proof beyond a reasonable doubt that the change will be good.
When something is demonstrably good for you, that change will occur whether you are looking for it or not.
Imagine conflict resolution as two people across from each other on opposite sides, playing double solitaire.
- You’re both trying to get rid of all your cards in the same line.
- You both win, or you both lose.
- The only way to win is to not hold any cards back.
A resolution to conflict is going to require change, and the change must have both parties winning.
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Questions for Listeners
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- Phone: 1-800-726-ANDY
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective |
| 0:06.2 | with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews. |
| 0:10.1 | Now here's your host. |
| 0:12.0 | Hello and welcome to In The Loop with Andy Andrews. |
| 0:15.4 | I'm your host, David Loy and Andy. |
| 0:18.1 | You're with us again today. |
| 0:19.4 | Thanks as always for joining us. How are you today? |
| 0:22.5 | I'm doing great, man. Thank you. I'm honored to be here, excited about this, and as always, |
| 0:29.2 | curious about what you're going to ask me today. Absolutely. And I think we've got a great topic. |
| 0:34.4 | Again, we're continuing to get amazing feedback from listeners and for anyone. |
| 0:39.4 | We'll say this at the front of the episode for the first time we've done in a while. But if you've |
| 0:43.1 | got any questions that you want us to address or just any comments that you want Andy to read, |
| 0:48.1 | feel free to email us in the loop at Andyandrews.com. Andy sees those emails. He sees everything that's going on. And so |
| 0:56.9 | send us a question and we'll try to get to it in a future episode. But Andy, this is an issue that |
| 1:01.5 | I feel like we have heard. Let me just let me just stop. Okay. Say this. If you don't mind, |
| 1:07.7 | David, you know this notice or thing that I have kind of going on, and I can't help. |
| 1:13.5 | I don't know if I ADD or the notice of the thing, but I can't help, but like pick out, I mean, I hear the totality of what you're saying and what you're asking and what you're getting to, but I also see these sentences as individual things. |
| 1:29.0 | And I would love to just like pull that one thing you said a minute ago out. |
| 1:35.8 | And I can't remember exactly how you put it right now, but I would love for my boys to have a recording of this in the bathroom. |
| 1:42.7 | And when they come in in the morning to have this voice of David, you know, maybe doing |
| 1:49.7 | a little deeper thing. |
| 1:50.9 | And, you know, because you said it just a minute ago, he sees everything. |
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