ITL116: What If My Spouse Doesn't Want to Grow?
In the Loop with Andy Andrews
Matt Lempert
4.9 • 614 Ratings
🗓️ 18 January 2014
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
On this week’s episode, Andy discusses a listener question: I’m making an effort in positive personal development, but my spouse is not ready to do the same. What do you do until they’re ready, or how do I continue to nudge them in the right direction without being “pushy” or making them feel inferior?
This is a huge source of confusion is marriages. We all grow at different…
• Rates
• Times
• Areas
Confidence or Arrogance?
• Don’t brag about the improvements that you are making.
• It is hard for a spouse to listen to someone whom they perceive as arrogant.
• What you are doing speaks louder than anything you could say.
A good marriage is a work in progress. If you and your spouse were exactly alike, one of you would be unnecessary.
Questions for Listeners
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• Phone: 1-800-726-ANDY
• E-Mail: InTheLoop@AndyAndrews.com
• Facebook.com/AndyAndrews
• Twitter.com/AndyAndrews
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews. |
| 0:10.2 | Now here's your host. |
| 0:11.8 | Hello and welcome to In The Loop with Andy Andrews. |
| 0:15.6 | I am your host, David Loy, and again with me as always, Andy Andrews. |
| 0:20.3 | Andy, thanks for joining us. Awesome. Hey, David. How are you? |
| 0:23.6 | I am fantastic. I'm really excited about today's episode. We have an amazing listener question that |
| 0:30.2 | I feel like applies to a lot of people that are out there and I'm interested to hear your |
| 0:35.5 | answer to it. So we'll just jump right in if that's okay. Okay. All right. Who's it from? Well, this person actually asked to be left |
| 0:43.9 | anonymous and for us to not say their name, and I think you might understand why when I read the |
| 0:49.2 | question. So let me read the question. We received this a couple of weeks ago. And so here we go. Here's the |
| 0:55.7 | listener question from Anonymous. Andy, I'm making an effort in positive personal development, |
| 1:02.9 | but my spouse is not ready to do the same. What do you do until your spouse is ready? |
| 1:09.9 | Or how do I continue to nudge them in the right direction without being pushy or making them feel inferior? |
| 1:18.3 | So you can understand why this person wants to remain anonymous. |
| 1:23.0 | Yeah, smart to remain anonymous there. |
| 1:27.1 | And I think also good not to really know whether that was |
| 1:31.5 | a man or a woman right then asked that question and that man that is such a great question because |
| 1:39.7 | it is such a uh a huge i, it is a huge source of confusion in marriages or in relationships. |
| 1:51.6 | It is such a big source of confusion that, well, you know, I know that there was a, you know, I started to say there was a time Polly and I struggled with that. |
| 2:07.8 | Polly and I still struggle with that. |
| 2:10.7 | We, because we, we grow, we all grow at different rates and we grow at different times and in different areas. |
| 2:21.7 | And so, as we have all talked before, you know, when you're really seeking wisdom, when you're looking to improve your life, and I've said this many times, if you're like me, it's not hard to find |
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