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I'm Ryan Holliday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical

wisdom, and insights from parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening,

and we hope this helps. It should be part of who you are. The double standards are revealing and also a little sad.

No one would ever refer to a mother as babysitting her kids, but fathers get it all the time.

If a man is out and about, no one asks, hey, where are your kids?

But women get it all the time.

There's an interesting passage in Evelyn McDonald's fascinating biography of Joan Didion,

who we've been writing a ton about

and actually just had Evelyn on the Daily Stoic podcast. But she points out another difference between

how the public saw Didion and her husband, John Gregory Dunn, also a great and successful writer.

One was clearly identified as a parent and the other was not, even though Dunn actually

wrote a whole book about the topic.

A Google search for images of just father and daughter yields zero results, Evelyn writes.

I don't think this is because John and Q were not close.

It was he who drove her to school in the mornings in Malibu.

John just worshipped Quintana, Julia Armstrong Totten says.

Rather, I think that when a woman author is photographed, she is more likely to include her child than the image, whether at her initiative or that of the photographer, because working mothers must always prove their con commitment to their parenting duties.

The public does not hold fathers to the same standards.

Some double standards are unrealistic, but others like this one are revealing.

Fathers should make their children part of their identity. It shouldn't be this side project,

this thing hidden away. It should be part of who they are. It's not something to be bashful about,

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