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I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights

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It's ultimately this that they judge you on.

There's no question Hemingway was a great writer.

He was the voice of a generation, the lost generation.

He redefined prose style in the English language.

His books have sold millions of copies.

He won the Nobel Prize in Literature and the Pulitzer Prize for Fiction.

He wrote beautifully on love and family in a farewell to arms. He wrote beautifully on struggle and perseverance, the old man in the sea. He was also a pretty

awful husband and father. As one of his sons said, to Hemingway, family life was the enemy

of accomplishment. It was the thing that interfered with his greatness, his craft, his books.

It was on several occasions, Patrick Hemingway recounting that Hemingway said that being a good

husband, being a good father, all of these things were not recognized by a reviewer when he

reviewed his book. And that may be partially true. Maybe for each individual work of art or each deal you sign,

what really counts is if you get the job done, if the thing works. But this quote from Patrick Hemingway

appears in Leslie M. Bloom's biography of Hemingway. She and the reader today judge Hemingway in a larger

context and as does his family. We see him not just for his career,

but for his life. We see him as a success, yes, but also as a shameful failure. We see him as a

flawed human being, a tragic figure, a man who made trade-offs that seemed unnecessary in retrospect,

horribly cruel, in fact. You can accomplish plenty in life without being a so-called art monster. In the end,

you'll be judged on your whole life, not just your successes. In fact, you'll be judged most on how you

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