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The Virtual Couch

It's Time to Make Some Adult Decisions! Everything You Need to Know About Differentiation

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5643 Ratings

🗓️ 2 March 2021

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Do you ever find yourself caught up in emotions so fast that you feel like you can’t think logically? Well, the good news is, you’re human! For most of us, we formed much of our internal compass from our family, including both po...

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0:00.0

So I'm pretty sure that I want to get a motorcycle. And I know for some people that might not be a big deal and you may in fact already have a motorcycle or you grew up with the family members riding motorcycles or you may even have had some bad experiences with motorcycles in your life. You may have been involved in a crash or heaven forbid even lost a loved one to a motorcycle accident. Or you might be somebody who hears me say,

0:21.2

I want to get a motorcycle and you say, hey, it's your life. Knock yourself out. Do what you want to do.

0:26.7

Or you might be somebody who when you heard me say that I wanted to get a motorcycle, that your first

0:31.9

response was, I know you don't really want one. You're smarter than that. Or you have kids and they'll think that you have a, they'll say, do you have a wife?

0:38.6

Don't you think about her?

0:40.0

Or do you think she'd appreciate it if you get in a crash?

0:42.3

But here's the thing.

0:43.7

I really can't pin down exactly why I want one.

0:46.5

I just want one.

0:47.4

But I don't want a really big truck and I don't want a classic car to fix up and I really don't want to shoot an automatic weapon and I don't want to

0:54.3

spend a week camping in the great outdoors. But I do want a new mini Cooper. I drive one now and I love

0:59.6

how zippy it is and how easy it is to park. And I don't want to shoot an automatic weapon. Not as a

1:04.5

political statement. I just really don't want to. And I actually don't mind camping when I have lots of blankets and electricity and lots of food

1:12.4

in my tent, but I would prefer a hotel with a view of the ocean, going out to eat for every meal

1:16.6

instead of making my own meals. So teach their own. But how often do you find yourself wanting to

1:21.0

tell people your opinion or why they shouldn't want a motorcycle or why they should want a camp

1:26.2

or why they need to try

1:27.9

shooting an automatic weapon. So sometimes it comes from a really good place. And it might be because

1:32.1

you really like something so much that you want everybody else to experience what you've experienced.

1:36.9

But on other occasions, are you telling somebody that they shouldn't get a motorcycle because,

1:41.1

well, you didn't have a motorcycle or is it simply an impulse that you

1:45.7

just respond? You tell somebody how you feel or what they need to do just because that's kind of

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