It’s Not Your Relationship. It’s You.

WITH LOVE, DANIELLE

Danielle LaPorte

Self-improvement, Education

4.9 • 697 Ratings

🗓️ 22 November 2023

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Summary

Catch that subject line?

It’s not your relationship. It’s you.

Slightly provocative? Yes. Likely true on the deepest level? Also yes.

Almost everything that I’ve had to apologize for in a relationship––or that I’ve wanted an apology for, had to do with my nervous system being too jacked or too drained.

The current human reality (you, me, the planet…)

We’re generally dysregulated, out of balance. We’re fried. Frayed. AND…
We are Love. We want to show up as Love. We want to receive Love. We want to give Love.

And whether we’re conscious of it or not, we know on some level that our relationships are THE vehicle for healing, self-awareness, for getting closer to our Higher Self…

It ALL happens in relationships.

Episode #91 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE is the third in a 3 part conversation on nervous system regulation. It’s about learning how to meet our triggers (hello, Inner Child and everyone in the world who’s triggering my Inner Child.) And then processing those triggers more mindfully, often physically, so that we don’t have to owe––or demand more apologies.

In this session we explore:

Why we keep trying to solve the wrong problems in our relationships
The relational symptoms of nervous system imbalance (overstaying, bickering, the silent treatment and the blame game…)
Simple ways to get centered in heated or heartbreaking interactions
How to get OUT of the loop of unhealthy behaviors/situations and a dysregulated nervous system––so we can unwire lifelong default stress responses that hinder love, intimacy, expression, and intuition.

When the nervous system is strong, then our relating is strong. Less wigging, more loving.

To less friction and more freedom.

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0:00.0	Hello, my loves. I have something extra layered, juicy, and uber useful for you today.
0:08.8	What you are about to hear is, if I do say so, a massively helpful class that I taught about relationships.
0:16.9	More specifically, how your relationships, every one of them, are directly related to the health
0:24.9	of your nervous system. And I will just give you my big thesis right now. If you have a strong and
0:32.3	balanced nervous system, you will have stronger and more balanced relationships, which isn't to say that
0:40.3	all of your relationships are going to be exactly the way you want them to be and everything's
0:43.9	going to get healed and all will be forgiven and you're going to magnetize amazing, glorious
0:49.5	humans into your life all day long everywhere.
0:52.2	But what it does mean is that no matter what happens in your relationship, no matter what
0:58.5	has happened, if you are balanced internally, psychologically, physically, if your nervous system
1:07.4	is regulated, you are going to be more resourced to handle whatever is going
1:13.5	up and down and sideways. You become less triggerable. So what I'm talking about in this webinar,
1:22.9	which is called From Friction to Freedom, is the not so obvious relational symptoms and behaviors
1:32.7	of nervous system imbalance. And I think on a global scale, pretty much every human being on
1:40.5	the planet, that would be global, is dealing with, I don't want to say suffering,
1:46.0	but is dealing with some degree of nervous system imbalance? Like, can I see a show of hands?
1:54.2	How's your agitation level? How's your sleep? Who's getting on your nerves? It's the world
1:58.9	getting on your nerves? It's the world getting on your nerves? Current chronic
2:02.4	stress. Yeah. Our relationships are impacted by all of those things. But I think in the conversation,
2:12.4	in the wellness space, we are not overtly making the connection between fried and frayed nervous systems
2:23.0	and our relationships with the people we love the most, with the people that we don't know
2:30.1	but claim to be on the other side of. Just all relationships, relationships with the fragments within ourselves, cultures, all of it.
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