Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast where we provide one lesson every day to help you

with your most important job being a dad. These are lessons inspired by ancient philosophy,

by practical wisdom, and insights from dads all over the world.

Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

It's not fair to expect this.

If you've ever watched Netflix's The Crown, you've seen this lesson play out.

Queen Elizabeth is strong. She's stoic. She's restrained. She's got a profound sense of duty.

She's continually surprised to see others struggle or fall short of her standards. Whether it's her

husband, her uncle, her sister, her son,

her daughter-in-law, or a prime minister, whether it's young Elizabeth played by Claire Foy or middle-aged

Elizabeth played by Olivia Coleman, it's the same unbridgeable gap in almost every relationship.

Why can't they just step up and do it? Why can't they get over

this? Why can't they understand? The answer, of course, is simple. They are not queen. Look,

this is fictionalized history, but even recent events play this out if the stories about her discussions

with Prince Harry and his wife,

Megan Markle, are even remotely correct. Queen Elizabeth expects them to live up to her standards,

as impossible and superhuman as they are. It's a lesson that every parent needs to learn. Your kids are

not you. Your kids are not even like other kids. They are

themselves. They have their own limitations, their own needs, their own drives and desires.

And you must not expect them to be like you. You must not make them feel inferior or flawed

for not being able to do what you do or did at their age. The advice of another

ruler guides us, Marcus Aurelius. He says, tolerant with others, strict with yourself. Give your kids

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