I'm good. Thank you for calling in this fine morning. What's going on?

I wanted to talk to you in particular, I listened to your family dynamics episode and I was

hoping we could dive into that a little bit more. Yeah. I have a very rocky relationship

with my mom. I'm almost 30 and I'm a people pleaser. I come from a divorced family and I was

just kind of wanting to discuss with you if I should continue to pursue this relationship

with my own mom and trying to build it and get over my resentment. Yeah. That I have towards

her or if I should let it go for a little bit. Yeah. I mean, without knowing anything else,

I hear an incredible amount of pain in your voice and that breaks my heart and I understand

the acute pain of family members hurting you and letting you down. So firstly, I just want

to say you're very, very for calling in and I'm sorry for what you've been through and I

really honor the fact that you want you are even asking this question, right? Because at

the end of the day, when we grow up, we realize families, family forever, but we don't have

to show up in the same way that we showed up when we were kids and you said that you were

a people pleaser and oftentimes being a people pleaser and adulthood is actually a trauma

response from a very negative family situation. I don't know if that's the case for you,

but sometimes when kids are dealing with parents with big personalities or whatever, that is

their trauma response. So, okay. So the question is, do you try and or do you let it breathe

for a sec? Well, let me ask you this, is your mom trying? Sorry, no. No. Oh, my love. I think

sometimes it's best to give to enforce a healthy boundary because sometimes space is the best

thing. Sometimes a little bit of room is really, really helpful and it's so painful because as a

child, you never give up on your parents, right? You want you want that bond, you want that

relationship, you want that back and forth with them, but sometimes you just, you have to protect yourself.

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