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Allison, welcome to the program.

Okay, well, hello. Thanks for taking my call. My children and I listen to you all the time in the left here.

And I don't want to be those caught one of those callers that interrupt you. So I'll try my very best to listen to your advice and not interrupt.

Thank you because the Tylenol is in the house. I don't have any.

Go ahead.

Well, I want to talk to you about our family. My I have two boys. One is 15 years old and the other is 11 and we lost their dad. My husband peed about it was five years ago in June.

And we have made a ton of games as a family through this grief. We've really come a long, long way, but there's just one thing in our household that I really would like to have changed.

I just feel, you know, I don't know if it's because of the grief or because of the fact that like I'm the only parent in the house at this time.

Of course, like every demand, everything good and bad comes from me and is my responsibility. And I think that there's just a lot of disrespect disrespect with them with each other.

Like they're very different people and there's just so much fighting within our family. And this isn't really something that I grew up with.

Like I grew up on one of six and I had a, I was the youngest of sex, a very supportive sibling relationship with my siblings. And it's really painful.

You know, I know that we're already in enough pain because of my husband having passed that like I really don't want to continue to have more pain as a.

Okay, I have a suggestion for you suggestion. Okay, you're going to have Monday night meetings. Let's see, it's Wednesday. I'm going to change it to Wednesday night meetings.

So you can do this tonight. You're going to say after dinner, I need you in the living room is something I have to tell you.

And they'll sit there make them sit sort of like in a triangle so everybody can see everybody. So somebody on a couch, somebody on a chair, somebody on another chair or three chairs from the kitchen, whatever.

Okay, so you're going to look very grim.

Which would probably be easier for you, easy for you because you're upset and you're nervous. So you'll be good at this.

So you look at them go from one to the other, one to the other and say, I need your help.

Since your dad died, I get to discipline and I get to hug and kiss discipline, hug and kiss discipline, hug and kiss and everything in between.

And you guys sort of teenage or types sort of and you go back and forth like guys do.

But I'm suffering and I'm in a lot of pain.

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