It's a Matter of Pride

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media

Society & Culture, Education, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Self-improvement

4.7 • 16.4K Ratings

🗓️ 13 January 2022

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Summary

In another episode of Esther Calling, he worries his desire for a serious relationship is putting women off. But early in their phone call, it becomes clear to Esther that he’s talking about a particular woman from his past. He describes his feelings for that woman as “intense”, whereas she was more ambivalent. Esther and the caller explore the question: when is yearning for someone’s unreciprocated feelings more about pride and getting what you want than it is about that other person? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Every season for where should we begin, I receive thousands of applicants.
0:09.3	And one of the most frustrating things is that I'm only going to be able to see 10 couples.
0:15.8	And I've been grappling with this.
0:18.0	How can I connect with more of you?
0:20.4	There are so many powerful questions, so many pain points that I would like to be able
0:25.0	to at least address with you even if shortly.
0:29.2	So this series is going to be different.
0:32.0	It's you calling me with a very precise question.
0:36.5	With your pain point, me calling you back and together we think out loud.
0:42.8	And we go from where should we begin to where can you start?
1:09.2	Hello.
1:25.0	As a single young man in my early 20s, I keep finding that the high achieving career-driven
1:30.1	young woman I find myself attracted to are not in the market for the type of deeply committed
1:34.4	long-term romantic relationship I'm looking for.
1:37.7	This as if the more I want this sort of relationship, the more likely I am to scare them away.
1:43.2	Is there anything I can do to relax their fear of losing one sense of identity, achievement
1:48.0	and independence?
1:49.0	Or should I be approaching this situation differently?
2:06.5	Hello.
2:07.5	Hello.
2:08.5	Oh, wow.
2:09.5	Hi.
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