Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from two to five p.m. Eastern time on serious XM triumph 11. Laura, welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura. Thanks for taking my call. Thank you.

I don't know if you remember, but I had called a couple weeks ago.

I had spoken to you about how my husband had an affair and I wasn't sure, you know, well, I was treating him poorly still after the fact after I

wanted to stay with him and work on communication and what basically said to just stop, stop treating him so poorly and just be sweet.

And you want to read a call so weekly or just to kind of give you an update. And I forgot to call you last week, so I apologize, but I wanted to give you an update and just let things have really been growing great.

I think it's just, I just needed somebody to tell me just a point link to quit being so mean so I could really see what I was doing.

So I just want to call you send your help with us.

So tell me what's changed.

Well, it's a lot easier just to have a conversation with him now. I mean, anytime, like you said, anytime I think to say anything negative or mean, just to say something sweet instead.

And I mean, it was really hard in the beginning to kind of change my thought process, but now it kind of is starting to come naturally.

And he's responding really well. You know, he and I are laughing a lot more and we're communicating better and we seem to want to be closer to each other.

It kind of brought the connection brought the connection back in our relationship.

So I think it's really, I mean, I don't want to say it's simple, but like you had said, men really aren't that complicated.

And I think they just want somebody who is who's just nice to them. And I didn't really think of it that way and it's very, that's very true.

And has he said that he's noticed you being different? Has he addressed it or is he just enjoying it?

He hasn't actually said anything, but he's made plans to spend time just the two of us, like without the kids, where he hasn't done that in the past.

You know, he had years and years ago, he and I used to do that stuff all the time and he would initiate it, but you know, ever since all this has happened, he hasn't really done anything like that.

So I feel like that's him wanting to be together and wanting to connect on another level and it kind of shows me that, you know, he thinks about me even outside of us being physically together.

And so I guess I just take that as his way of realizing that, you know, I've kind of made the effort. And I did tell him I spoke with him after our conversation, like you said, and I told him, you know, that you and I talked and let him know, you know, what you had said and told him that I had asked for his forgiveness.

And I told him that I realized, you know, what I was doing, and that I had, you know, that I was sorry for what I was doing to him. And I know he's very, you know, he regrets what he has done, but he's been making all, you know, all the effort to be a better man and really show that he, you know, is this sorry for his family?

And now it's my turn to show him that I appreciate him making this effort and that I think we really can reconnect and get a relationship back on track and just treat each other with respect again.

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