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And that develops a mindset that they have to constantly perform to be accepted, and it's

really important for us to help our children set

healthy boundaries and learn the importance of rest. That's what we're talking

about today on the focus on the family parenting podcast. I'm John Fuller along with Dr.

Danny Werta who heads up our parenting and youth department here and today we're

going to hear from author Terry Lynn Underwood who talked with Jim Daly and me about how she struggled with a performance-based

identity during her formative years.

You talked about praying for your child, Cassidy, for her identity. That really

caught me. Why was that the thing? I struggled as I think most young girls do in

lots of different ways with where I fit in. I just

I've always felt that need to perform. I don't think my parents necessarily put that on me.

I think that some of that's just personality and wiring.

And birth order does have an impact.

Yeah.

And so this idea of my identity so much I realized as the longer I was in the word I realized how much I

had allowed my identity to be shaped by what I had done instead of who God says I

am and I looked around at all the students that we've had ministered to over the years and

their moms and my friends and I thought this is real this is all women deal with this.

I think the reason I wanted to kind of drill down on that is it is so much the plight of women

identity.

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