Welcome back to We can do hard things.

Today we have one of our all-time favorite guests, wise, just buckets of wisdom, but also compassion and goodness and

juiciness. Dr. Alexandra Solomon is internationally recognized as one of today's most

trusted voices in the world of relationships. And her framework of relational self-awareness has

reached millions of people around the globe. A licensed clinical psychologist

in private practice, couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Alexander

Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical

tools people can use to bring awareness about what the hell. Curiosity and authenticity to their

relationships. She is the host of the reimagining love podcast and author of Love Every Day,

Taking Sexy Back, How to Own Your Sexuality and Create Relationships You Want, and Loving Bravely,

20 lessons of self-discovery to help you get the love you want.

She is also a friend of the pod. Thank you for being here, Dr. Solomon.

And now, sister is going to tell us what the hell we're talking about today. Go.

Okay. Here we go. Dr. Solomon came back because we need her apparently every week to help us.

And what we're talking about today is something that all of the studies show is one of the most cited reasons for marital conflict.

And that is career work issues, the way that takes place in your

relationship. So if you feel like your partner's work is killing your relationship, if they keep

telling you your career is sabotaging the marriage,

whatever it is, if you have ambitions outside the home, how does it affect the intimacy inside

the home? This is a tale as old as time. Dr. Solomon, tell us what's happening. What do you see out in the therapy

world of what is happening with this? Yeah. And what's the presenting symptoms? Like two people sit down

in a room with you. What do they say? A couple walks into a bar. A couple. They flop down on the

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