Is There a Logic to Romantic Love?
CrowdScience
BBC
4.8 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 14 December 2018
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
Loving someone who doesn’t love you in return makes us feel wretched – can science explain why we must suffer? Parental love makes perfect evolutionary sense but romance just seems to have it in for us time after time. CrowdScience listener Leja wants to know why we fall in and out of love.
Marnie Chesterton discovers the irrational things, the impulsive things and the financially ruinous things BBC World Service listeners have done in the name of love and meet the rapper who turned herself into a science subject in an effort to flush out thoughts of her ex-boyfriend.
We delve into our ancestral past and into our brains to find out why romantic love is so central to the human experience.
Presenter: Marnie Chesterton Producer: Louisa Field
(Image: A loving couple hugging each other, the woman holding a rose. Credit: Getty Images)
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| 0:04.0 | I'm Tammy Walker and I produce podcasts for the BBC. |
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| 0:30.3 | This is Crowd Science from the BBC World Service. I'm Marnie Chesterton. |
| 0:35.0 | They say there's good grief, but how can you tell it from the back |
| 0:50.0 | for a really long time I had been trying to date or actively dating or recovering from the most recent breakup with one of the members in my rap crew. |
| 0:55.0 | This is Dessa, writer and musician. |
| 0:58.0 | Crowd science crew met her backstage before a concert in Bristol in the UK. |
| 1:03.6 | It was a double-edged sword and that one, there was the pain of actually going through a breakup. |
| 1:07.4 | What hurts everybody? |
| 1:08.2 | That's just part of being human. |
| 1:09.5 | That's part of our lot, I get that. |
| 1:12.3 | But there was this kind of mounting embarrassment that I just |
| 1:15.5 | couldn't seem to heal at a reasonable rate when everyone else was and I wasn't |
| 1:19.4 | sure if that was like compatible with a strong feminist worldview the fact that I'm just like |
| 1:24.5 | stuck on dude even when the other parts of my life seem to be going pretty well like |
| 1:28.1 | am I allowed to feel this sad for so long and still keep my feminist membership card. |
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