Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Do you ever notice that when you get something that you really want, the thrill is there,

but it's brief?

This is what I've learned, my friends.

What we want isn't the stuff, isn't the thing, isn't the external. It's the emotion, it's the feeling that it creates. Now, I was speaking to a friend of mine recently who, for personal reasons, was not able to take her annual family ski vacation this year. And she was so, so, so upset about it, more upset than I would have expected

because they go on vacations a lot. And what was interesting, when I asked her, I probed a bit,

I was like, why so sad about this? What is it about this specific vacation that's upsetting you?

Well, she told me that in that setting, in that environment, her family are really together. She said that,

you know, we laugh so hard, we forget ourselves sometimes. Something about being in the mountains

does that to them and for them. And the mountains, the absorption, the closeness, the beauty,

sure, I get it. But what's interesting was, will I continue to probe? I said, you know,

could you create that way you are? Do you need to get on a plane? Do you need to go to the mountains?

Do you need to gather all that gear to experience feeling alive, feeling connected, feeling just

gorgeous and in love and part of something that is just special and temporary and valuable in

our lifetimes, the passing of time, time spent with families. Your family's at home, do you need

to go somewhere to feel that? And it was really interesting because asking her that question,

I know that this can apply to you right now.

What is it that you want? Do you want a new car? Do you want a new job? Do you want a new relationship?

What is the feeling behind the thing that you want? And how can you create that anyway? So, for example, if you're single right now and you want love, can you notice the love that's

already in your life? Maybe you have the most insane, loyal, awesome best friend, or maybe you've got

24-7 affection from your pet, or maybe you have a real camaraderie with your co-workers.

When you focus on the feeling, not the stuff, not the exact picture perfect setting,

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