Alex, a young woman right into asking this, Pastor John, is sexual attraction at the beginning

of a relationship, essential for marriage.

Should you court someone you are not sexually attracted to, I'm currently praying about

the possibility of courting a man who is on fire for the Lord and who pushes me to be

a better woman from Jesus, but I'm not sexually attracted to him, although I am emotionally.

What should I do?

I was so perplexed and moved by this question.

I talked to my wife about it, so this is a little bit of overflow from our conversation,

because I'm not sure I can get inside the skin of women very easily, so I wanted to check

with a woman.

At one level, this is easy to answer, and at another level, not so easy.

The key word that makes it easy is the word essential.

She says, is sexual attraction at the beginning of a relationship, I would say any time in

the relationship, essential for marriage, and the word essential means of the essence,

does sexual attraction belong to the essence of marriage, and the answer is no.

It does not belong to the essence of marriage, and be careful.

I didn't say sexual relations, it's sexual pleasure.

Sexual attraction doesn't belong to the essence of marriage.

The essence of marriage is the making and keeping of a covenant between a man and a woman

to be husband and wife to each other as long as they both shall live.

That's the essence of a marriage, covenant-making, covenant-keeping, to be a husband and a wife,

and to be sure that covenant includes the promise to give oneself to the other insexual relations.

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