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Is My Husband’s Porn a Marriage Deal-Breaker?

Ask Pastor John

Desiring God

John Piper, Unknown, 163859, Pastor, Ask, Theology, Desiring God, Religion & Spirituality/christianity, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Questions

4.83.8K Ratings

🗓️ 4 September 2013

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Summary

Marriage is a lifelong, God-wrought covenant. God did not create it to break — even when one partner goes back on their vows by viewing pornography.

Transcript

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Pastor John, this question comes on the heels of a question we addressed in episode 122,

0:09.3

which was one of the most popular episodes we've ever released.

0:12.8

Is my boyfriend's porn a marriage deal breaker?

0:16.5

And now we have an email from a listener who wants to push this sin into marriage and

0:20.2

ask the question, is my husband's porn a marriage deal breaker?

0:24.8

What would you say to this question, Pastor John?

0:27.3

My answer is no.

0:31.8

Your husband's struggle or compromise with pornography is not a marriage deal breaker.

0:41.2

And I would say the same thing that a wife's compromise with pornography is not a husband's

0:49.0

deal breaker.

0:50.4

That's not to be assumed in our day because it cuts both ways.

0:55.2

I don't want to be hard on the women here I want.

0:59.2

What I really want to say is marriage is a covenant created in heaven.

1:07.1

See you with a vow of lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, consummate it in sexual

1:12.8

union.

1:13.8

That's my definition.

1:14.8

I believe it's a biblical definition of what marriage is.

1:17.8

So my answer to the question of what can break the marriage is based on what marriage is.

1:24.8

So let me just work that out from a minute or two.

1:28.4

It's a covenant.

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It's a covenantal.

1:30.4

The foundational text for marriage is Genesis 2.24.

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