Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. It's just me today. I'm going to talk

about three reasons why pornography is an abuse issue. It's not so much that I think talking about pornography as an

abuse issue is fun because everything about abuse is miserable. But educating women about this

type of abuse is my absolute favorite thing to do. I have a master's degree in education. I'm an abuse educator.

And because I talk about abuse all day long, I've developed a dark sense of humor.

So I appreciate your patience because when it comes to abuse, it's not a what doesn't kill you

makes you stronger situation. It's what doesn't kill you really harms you

and limits your ability to function and your ability to feel joy for a long time. It's miserable to

learn why pornography is abusive from experience and extremely difficult to learn how to protect yourself

from this type of abuse because most people don't give victims of this type of abuse

the correct information. So that's my intent today. I don't want any woman to be experiencing

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