I'm seeking to view men with eyes of grace and to use wisdom at the same time.

I understand that every sin, including lust, is a turning away from delight in Jesus to

a broken sister.

In light of this, do you believe it is possible for a man to be strong in faith, finding genuine

joy in Jesus and enjoying an overall satisfying relationship with Him, while simultaneously indulging

frequently in lust.

I believe that every sin can be defeated through the power of the Holy Spirit, but I do not

want to be naive either since I know this issue is wide and pervasive.

I suppose another way to word my question would be this, Pastor John, should the present

presence of pornography in a man's life be a marriage deal breaker for a single woman

like me?

Wow, I hear at these two questions there, and I can't answer the last one.

Is it a deal breaker until I answer a couple of others?

So let me give you, when I think about this, here are the four questions I'm going to

have to tackle.

One is the very question she asked, can a man get victory over this?

I mean, shouldn't a man be able to live a life of more or less regular triumph instead

of recurring over and over again to pornography?

That's one.

Number two, if you can't, is it a deal breaker for her marrying him?

Number three, what is pornography?

That's she didn't ask.

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