Is it Self-Pity or Self-Compassion?

WITH LOVE, DANIELLE

Danielle LaPorte

Self-improvement, Education

4.9 • 697 Ratings

🗓️ 19 September 2025

⏱️ 18 minutes

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Summary

Sometimes we confuse self pity as self Compassion.

Compassion is a dignified energy. It’s embracing and wise. It knows that it’s highly capable of healing people and situations. Compassion is merciful. Compassion is a possibility thinker.

Self-pity is like the zirconia diamond of compassion. It’s not real, but it looks close. Self-pity looks backwards, scans for blame. It seems interested in getting out of pain but… nope, not really.

In this episode, Danielle shares how she caught herself in a cycle of self-pity, and how she shifted toward compassion with one simple prayer.

Three days of focus turned into gentle optimism—and compassion emerged.

In this episode:

The difference between self-pity and self-compassion
Why self-pity feels soothing but blocks healing
The prayer Danielle used to transform self-pity into resilience

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0:00.0	My loves, before we get into the topic of the day, let me tell you that fall equinox is coming up
0:07.6	Sunday, September 21st, and as you may already know, every equinox and every solstice,
0:14.5	I do a free meditation. Thousands of people show up. It's going to be at 7 a.m. Pacific time.
0:19.8	That's 10 a.m. Eastern. I'll be doing it live on
0:23.3	substack. If you head to danielaport.com slash inner sun. We'll send you the link. There's a little
0:30.5	prep kit that I send in advance. Nothing big in detail, just like if you're going to do this
0:36.3	with us, ideally you could be seated in
0:38.4	lotus position facing the east with a candlelit and if you are driving your kids to church
0:44.7	i take you however i can get you fall equinox is all about extra light extra downpours very
0:52.8	powerful windows to set your healing intentions.
0:57.3	It's really a time to honor our capacity to balance the shadow and the light, to bring the
1:03.5	shadows forward, all that stuff in the psyche, and to pour our light on it, and really live as
1:08.7	healers.
1:10.3	It's going to be a 30-minute visualization.
1:11.9	Think nature imagery, golden prana, heart radiance.
1:16.4	We're going to be seated on top of mountain tops.
1:18.5	It's just, oh, it's gorgeous.
1:21.5	Danielle Laporte.com slash inner sun.
1:25.1	If you are reading show notes for this podcast episode, you know that in the prep kit
1:30.1	there's going to be an equinox guide. I talk about my personal rituals, how to prepare your space.
1:35.7	If you can't make it live, the meditation will be available on Substack. You can go back to it
1:40.9	anytime. This is such a beautiful meditation. You can do it all throughout the year, from equinox to solstices beyond.
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