Is it Reactive Abuse or Reactive Defense? - Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A

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🗓️ 13 October 2023

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

Brandon discusses Reactive Defense & the Reactive Defense Response, why it's significant, and how it's manipulated by abusers to shift blame onto their victims. You'll learn how these tactics are used to frame the abuser as the innocent party, manipulate victims into feeling guilt and shame, and even blackmail victims. We also shine a light on the widespread misconception of mutual abuse, and the importance of recognizing signs of Reactive Defense and Coercive Control as a whole. Join us as we navigate through these challenging topics, providing clarity and support along the way. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. Thank you to our sponsor FACTOR. To get delicious fresh healthy meals delivered to your door and ready in 2 minutes, go to Factor at https://www.factormeals.com/nap50 and use promo code NAP50 to get 50% off. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Misogyny, Empathy, Controller, Imposter syndrome, Validation, Relationship, Psychopath, Personality types, Narcissistic, Narcissism, Jealous, Infidelity, Domestic violence, Cptsd, Child abuse, Psychotherapist, Codependency, Verbal abuse, Trauma therapy, Stalking, Sexual abuse, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Personality disorder, Narcissistic abuse, Manipulation, Financial abuse

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, everyone.
0:33.3	I am Brandon Chadwick, and today we are going to talk about what I am calling the reactive
0:41.2	defense response.
0:43.9	And before we get to our episode, if you want to be a guest on our Survivor Story episodes,
0:48.4	please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com.
0:51.2	Top of the page, there's a button that says guest form.
0:54.0	When you click on that
0:55.0	button, it takes you to our guest form page. And there you can read all of our instructions and either send
0:59.5	us an email at Narcissistapocalypse.g.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit
1:05.2	button. And please do send it in the format that we ask for. So today our episode is going to be about reactive defense response.
1:16.7	And many people use a term called reactive abuse. Most everyone hates that term. I think, you know, 90% of the people out there really hate the term
1:32.3	reactive abuse. And so I think it is time to retire the term reactive abuse for good. And whereas for a while,
1:43.5	I've been using the term self-defense.
1:47.2	You know, I've been using that term for a bit in replacement for it. But I also felt that
1:51.8	self-defense really wasn't working for me as far as when I was using it in descriptions.
1:59.0	It just kind of didn't feel right.
2:06.1	And when I think in sports terms, as I played a lot of sports in my life, when I think of defense, I think of it in two ways, one in which you react and one in which you can see the
2:13.3	play coming.
2:14.2	You've seen enough film and played long enough that you can see things forming before
2:19.2	they form. And that's called in sports, that's called reading a defense. And, you know, then you kind of
2:25.9	know what to do to avoid reacting as best you can and to kind of get, you know, to thwart the offense
2:33.4	in the best way possible.
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