Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free

podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

Welcome to episode 122 of the Flying Free Podcast.

Today we have a listener question that I think will resonate with many of you.

Let's hear what her question is. will resonate with many of you.

Let's hear what her question is.

Hi there, my name is Elizabeth,

and I was just wondering if you agree with this idea of being able to stay in an abusive,

emotionally abusive relationship.

If that's even possible, I know Leslie Vernick,

I've listened to some of her stuff

and she, I think her position is that if you decide to go or stay that's up to you but if you decide to stay

stay well or stay healthy so to speak. I have chosen to do that because for one I am

ill I have a chronic illness a vestibular issue so it makes it difficult for me to be in my own

but I'm even considering to get out because I am wondering is that even can that really be true that you can

stay in a destructive marriage and you can stay healthy.

Okay, so let's talk, we'll start by talking about what what's staying well actually means because it might mean different things for different people depending on your programming.

For one person, staying well might mean just staying and surviving without falling

apart emotionally or maybe crying all the time. For another person it might mean being able to stay without screaming or arguing or being

involved in that constant battle.

Both of those scenarios might require you to become someone that you're not. But for some people that's a compromise that they're willing to make

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