Is it a mistake to get back together with your ex?

I am going to teach you the four essential questions that will give you clarity about whether

or not this relationship has a bright new chapter ahead or if you're about to get on the

on-ramp to disaster so that you can avoid it.

And that is, of course, Tom Petty, ladies and gentlemen, the song is Need to Know,

the only Tom Petty song.

They never play on the radio, which is too bad because it is the best one.

I'm Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby.

I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, a licensed psychologist, and I'm a board certified coach.

And it's my mission to help growth-oriented people like you do the work to create love, happiness, and success in your life because you deserve that.

So let's dive right into our topic today with the first and most important question.

Is it always a mistake to get back together with your ex? And I'll just tell you right now, no,

it is absolutely not always a mistake. And to understand why that's true, first you have to

understand why do people break up in the first place. And that, my friend, goes into cycles of rupture and repair in

relationships. Let's talk first about rupture. In every relationship, couples experience

rough patches, times when things feel difficult. There is a growth moment. Either couples do this work successfully,

but if they can't, it can get to a point where things feel so hard, it calls into question

whether or not the relationship is sustainable. In order for things to work, something will need to change.

And people move into this mental and emotional space where they begin to wonder,

are we fundamentally compatible? Can this get better? In the space, sometimes people get involved

with couples counseling or relationship coaching with someone

like me. And if there's a lot of negativity in a relationship or if the path forward is not clear,

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