Is He Using You? 7 Warning Signs You Have Weak Boundaries | Terri Cole (Fan Fav)

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4.7 • 657 Ratings

🗓️ 24 June 2025

⏱️ 104 minutes

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This is a Fan Fav episode. Ever felt like setting boundaries is just too damn hard? I hear you, and honestly, you’re not alone! So many of us women struggle to stand our ground—then end up feeling resentful, invisible, or straight-up used. That’s why I sat down with legendary psychotherapist and “Boundary Boss” Terri Cole to break down exactly why we freeze, people-please, and self-abandon—and, most importantly, how to stop. Terri gets brutally honest about the root causes of poor boundaries, from family expectations to people-pleasing patterns, and gives us the roadmap for becoming our own damn advocates. With real talk, tactical steps, and compassion for every woman still learning to use her voice, Terri reveals the warning signs of weak boundaries (they’re not what you think!), the power of resentment as your wake-up call, and scripts for even the most awkward family encounters—hello, narcissistic mothers and nosy Aunt Betty! Get ready to ditch guilt, drop the drama, and start setting limits that honor YOU. SHOWNOTES 00:00 – Why boundary setting triggers insecurity, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment 02:29 – Resentment as a red flag: How to spot disordered boundaries in your life 06:44 – Taking responsibility for your “50%” and the art of clear, proactive communication 14:18 – Childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, and the roots of boundary struggles 36:28 – High-functioning codependency: Why “superwomen” still give too much 51:28 – Suppressed anger, the power of naming your feelings, and setting stronger boundaries 1:09:06 – Scripts for handling invasive relatives & rude questions at family gatherings 1:19:33 – Narcissistic mothers: Signs, hard limits, and how to protect your energy 1:28:44 – Relationship boundaries: From stating your needs to enforcing consequences and non-negotiables 1:29:43 – Making boundaries a language—why practice and self-compassion change everything FOLLOW TERRI COLE: Instagram: https://instagram.com/terricole Website: https://www.terricole.com Book: https://boundarybossbook.com Ready to become a BOUNDARY BOSS? Let’s go! CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:51.5	Boundaries really do keep tripping us up. For some reason, so many of us find it
0:56.4	freaking difficult to set a boundary, keep a boundary, hold strong to the boundary. And so it ends up
1:02.0	leaving us feeling really insecure, self-conscious, not worthy. And it all stems from us not setting
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1:24.4	all the people in our lives and how that has a massive knock-on effect.
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