Each of our lives is a story. As therapists, our job is to show you that perhaps

your story isn't exactly what you thought it was. I have never thought as if

that way and honestly in the first time in two years I feel bad for her because I

have not felt that way the whole time. It has just been difficult so thank you

for I think allowing me to feel feel bad for her. Hey everyone, I'm Lori Gottlieb. I'm

a psychotherapist and I write the dear therapist advice column for the Atlantic.

I'm also the author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. And I'm Guy Winch. I'm a

psychologist and I write the dear guy advice column for Ted. I also wrote

Emotional First Aid and we are the hosts of a new podcast from iHeartRadio,

dear therapists. We both get tons of letters each week for our columns but we

wanted to have real-time conversations with the people who write to us and not

only guide them but also share with you our listeners the behind the scenes of

what we're thinking when someone says can you help me with this? Wow so that's

an interesting letter right this is a please tell me I'm not a scumbag letter.

Yeah to me it's I need to get out of jail too. I've been dating a single

dad for two years. His daughter is a six-year-old. She hates me one minute and

loves me ten minutes later. I was raised in a generation where men didn't show

emotions. I am not good at words but going through it has helped me grow in

that sense. But we wanted to go even deeper than that so there's a twist in our

columns our readers don't get to hear how the advice worked out but in our

podcast we decided to bring people back so they can fill us in on how

everything went what worked what didn't and what we can all learn from it. And I'm

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