Interpreting Toxic Texts [294]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Narcissism, Christianity, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Spiritual, Christian, Self-improvement, Education, Divorce, Marriage

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🗓️ 24 September 2024

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever gotten a toxic text from a friend, a family member—maybe your spouse? The women in our Flying Free Kaleidoscope have the opportunity to post the toxic texts they receive so that we can help them process, and I came across one I just couldn’t wrap my brain around, it was so incredibly full of toxicity and falsities.

So today’s episode is breaking down this particular abusive text that one of my members received, and honestly, it can actually be quite interesting once you get the hang of it. Come parse through this toxic texter's false beliefs and see how I would respond if I were the one getting this text.

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Related Resources:

Read one of my favorite books, Forgiveness After Trauma, and listen in on an interview I did with the author, Susannah Griffith.
Check out the article I mentioned by Christy Hemphill, “How Things Go Wrong with Metaphorical Reasoning in Ephesians 5.”
Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote another book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse.
My newest book, All the Scary Little Gods, is a spiritual memoir about healing from religious trauma and toxic programming.
Flying Free is my private online education community designed for Christian women in emotionally abusive marriages. Whether you want to stay in your marriage or leave, we want to equip and support you through this community.
Flying Higher is our educational community for divorced Christian women.

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now. And you're listening to the
0:09.3	Flying Free Podcast, a support resource for Women of Faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden
0:16.4	emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:18.9	Welcome to episode 294 of the Flying Free Podcast.
0:27.0	Today we are going to look at a text that a woman inside of our private forum received from a relative in her life.
0:36.8	We'll just say it was from an aunt.
0:39.5	And we're going to kind of parse out this.
0:41.4	We have a space in our private forum called Toxic Text
0:46.4	Interpretations and we go in and if someone gets a toxic text from
0:51.9	someone in their life, they can go in and post it and then we can kind of help them
0:58.8	parse through it and see what is good about it as well as what is unhealthy about it because sometimes I think
1:06.4	when we live in these abusive relationships and we are circling around in these abusive
1:11.7	environments people can say things to us and we
1:15.2	actually give them credibility and we buy into what they're saying, we think they're telling
1:19.2	the truth, we think they know what they're talking about and what they're really just doing is
1:23.4	projecting their own issues onto us and then we take it upon ourselves and then we spin
1:28.4	out and it just goes in bad directions and it's completely unnecessary because a lot of what is being spoken in these kinds of situations is just extremely abusive and not even true at all.
1:40.3	And so there was a particularly good one that came through that had so many amazing
1:45.2	examples of just manipulation and twisted thinking that I thought it would be fun to do a
1:50.4	podcast about it and I think many of you will be able to go, oh my goodness, people
1:55.3	have told me those things also in one way, shape, or form at some point in my life and I really
2:01.0	didn't know what to think about it. So I think it will be very helpful. But
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