CIA gave us a school of thought where we had to understand the psychological advantages that we had over other people.

The agency teaches us to recognize it because we use it and that is we all have personas.

One of my favorite personas that you have, I want to call it ditsy but it's not ditsy.

The little lady persona.

Yes! So you're using kind of inherent sexism to get what you want.

It's, I mean, do you see why I call you brilliant?

That's all soft power, and it's really powerful.

Right.

Because hard power, you know, it's just a bunch of threatening, and you can lose your spot at any time but soft power soft power lasts I went for an early morning grocery shop

yesterday and when I go to the grocery store in the morning, I always go to the same one

because it's five minutes away. I always see this older gentleman who's a bagger. And he actually

commented yesterday. He doesn't normally, we have like small talk sometimes, but yesterday he was like,

I see you in here a lot.

You must have a huge family.

You know, it's funny because we don't.

We don't, but we eat.

We eat so much.

I'm in the grocery store so much.

So yesterday we were having this really, like, lovely little conversation about family and food and whatever.

And then when he,

you know, I was finished checking out. He finished bagging. You know, they always ask if you need help.

I always decline. And, and he was like, all right, have a blessed day, honey. And as I'm walking away, I had the thought, you know, because it's, and I don't know if it's a thing in the South or if it's just me.

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