Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast.

Kelly here.

And today I want to talk about how to increase your access.

And I mean that as in social access.

This is something I've been talking about a lot as everything I do with this podcast comes out of the conversations I have with incredible black women

all the time and just in general people. And I was doing this kind of inventory because I'm one of

those people. I hope you all are not like this. You are living a much more blessed existence than I am.

That's like constantly analyzing everything and being like, how can I make this better? What can I do

differently? And that is healthier than where I used to be because I used to be like so negative and so

down on myself about your failing. This is terrible. And now I'm just like, how could I make this

better? But as I've talked about before in the podcast, one of the quotes that has stuck with me

for life is the quote that in the pursuit of happiness, sometimes one just needs to pause and be

happy. And so as I've worked on that, one of the things

I'm trying to unpack is not constantly need to readjust things. I say all that to say.

I was still in a spiral about thinking about how I can improve things. And I was talking to a friend

about it. And I've gotten to a place where I'm really proud of myself, including telling

my therapist that, that I've realized that I am doing a lot of great things. And that one of the

things that's a barrier, why I'm not like a multi-millionaire and black or burnout is it number one in

the entire world, boils down to a couple of things. It is about some systemic structures, which I'm not going

to bother to talk about, because we all know we're black women. You get what I mean by that.

Some systems that are not catered to me as a black woman, but also a matter of access.

Like people who are successful tend to have access to people with money, to people who are powerful,

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