Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

This narrative that any given relationship, just pick one.

Any given relationship, it can be with your kid, it could be with your spouse, it could be with a co-worker, your boss, whatever, would be different if only that person would fix A, B, and C.

That would make life easy. That is all I've ever wanted is for you to be better.

Right, right, right.

That's not true because really, it's still on us what we're going to allow and how we're going to respond

because it's not ever really about that other person.

It's wherever you go, there you are.

And you repeat the pattern with the next person over and over.

Of course you do.

And in any relational dynamic, it's not only

romantic. I mean, you'll, friends, family. It will repeat. One thing I'm working on with my therapist

right now, and this is hard for me, I didn't realize this was hard for me, is I'm incredibly

judgmental, deeply judgmental of myself. When I have a thing come up, I am judgmental of my own

response. I am learning.

I prefer stability. I prefer things to be nice and protect every...

Equilibrium. I like it right here, right around the same equal line.

Give or take a degree. So I struggle to let hard things be hard.

I struggle to let bad things be bad.

I struggle to let sad things be sad.

I judge those things.

I judge them that hard is bad.

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