And what's it like to be someone's disappointment for twenty-something years?

God!

What you're about to hear is an unscripted one-time couples counseling session.

It contains mature themes and listener discretion it's advised.

For the purposes of maintaining confidentiality, names and some identifiable characteristics have been removed.

But their voices and their stories are real.

Well, I wanted to work on my relationship, want to make it better, more satisfying, both for her and for myself.

I tend to be more solitary and like to do things on my own, like time alone.

We enjoy the same kind of plays and restaurant and if we travel together, it's really usually a great time.

Put it in the same kitchen together trying to figure out whether the crystal light or grape juice and the picture and I could bite a cut off.

I want to find ways for us to keep from wandering off in our own direction because we have a tendency to do that.

As far as our best-life goes, we get very caught in just the struggle of it when I think it could be fun, more relaxed and more engaging for both of us instead of sad.

This couple has been together for more than two decades and sexuality has been a problem, has been fraught, pretty much since the beginning.

In the past 12 years, there's been the impotence and I find very slow awareness of, wow, this is the rest of my life.

I say in this marriage, every time we have such a place, there's like this old-along grief waiting for me when I'm struggling to wear it now that you're truly unlikely that there's ever going to be an action in your husband's family.

It's not just his penis that doesn't connect, it's also his entire being that struggles to connect with her in this particular way.

And they would like to do something about this because he doesn't want to lose her and she's really despairing.

But I also think that before they can speak about his erectile difficulties and about their sexlessness, there is another place we need to enter which is his aloneness.

This is where should we begin with Esther Peral?

If you had an image of yourself as a kid, what would it be?

I was alone.

And do you think that that way of yours still is part of how unoccasion instead of reaching out to your wife, you decide, I better do it in a way you don't even decide, you just go about things on your own?

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