If Your Spouse Has Experienced Sexual Abuse
Focus on the Family Marriage Podcast
Focus on the Family
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🗓️ 25 April 2024
⏱️ 10 minutes
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Summary
Past sexual abuse can be one of the most difficult things to discuss with your spouse. John, Erin and Greg provide hope to people who've been sexually abused. Plus, Jim Daly speaks to Dr. Michael Sytsma about how you can be a source of healing, if your spouse has experienced past sexual trauma.
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| 0:00.0 | Today we're going to be talking about the serious topic of sexual abuse and how you can find |
| 0:11.7 | healing. I'm John Fuller along with Greg Smalley and his wife |
| 0:15.4 | Aaron and they lead the focus marriage team. Aaron in your counseling do you find |
| 0:21.0 | that many people aren't even talking about sexual trauma at all it just kind of comes out in the marriage that oh I have a past and I was traumatized and here I am and here it is? |
| 0:32.0 | Yeah, I don't know percentage wise how and here I am and here it is. Mm-hmm. |
| 0:33.0 | Yeah, I don't know percentage-wise how often that is coming out in marriage versus prior to marriage. |
| 0:39.8 | But what I know to be true is that oftentimes it just presents because it's amazing how |
| 0:47.7 | when we've been through something so traumatic that our brains, our bodies can really pack that away and as it comes up there it is and |
| 0:58.1 | so it's it's recognizing this is tender this is sensitive and it's also something that can be healed and worked through |
| 1:05.7 | especially together. Yeah there is hope yes and I would even add and I won't go |
| 1:11.1 | into any details but there was a situation in my past. |
| 1:15.0 | I remember, and this hasn't been very long, that Aaron and I were kind of talking about this. |
| 1:20.6 | I just kind of, as a side note even mentioned the situation that I had never really |
| 1:26.1 | thought about as being sexual abuse that as I started talking about it Aaron |
| 1:31.2 | started going hey well wait a minute. |
| 1:34.4 | She's like, do you realize what was going on? |
| 1:37.0 | Do you realize that that was sexual abuse? |
| 1:39.8 | And so I think part of it is that for many people haven't gone through that at some level maybe they're not even realizing that sexual abuse happened and that that began a journey even within our own relationship just to keep talking and healing |
| 1:54.4 | through that. Well we believe healing and restoration are possible and we're |
| 1:59.3 | going to hear a little bit more now from Dr. Michael Seizma, a therapist and Chanti Feldhahn, together they did some really |
| 2:05.9 | wonderful research on married couples and sexuality and here they are now with Focus |
| 2:10.9 | President Jim Daly. Dr. Mike, let me come back to something you mentioned in the resistant category. |
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