If You Want A Strong Relationship, Set This Boundary First | Lewis & Martha Higareda Howes

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 893 Ratings

🗓️ 21 July 2025

⏱️ 7 minutes

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Lewis and Martha reveal the boundary-setting strategy that transformed their relationship from the very beginning, sharing why being brutally honest about your non-negotiables creates deeper intimacy than trying to be the "perfect" partner. Discover how former people-pleasers learned to protect their energy and create unshakeable peace in their relationship and beyond.

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0:00.0	I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you're looking to create more financial freedom
0:06.8	in your life, you want abundance in your life and you want to stop making money hard in your life,
0:12.4	but you want to make it easier. You want to make it flow. You want to feel abundant.
0:16.3	Then make sure to go to make money easybook.com right now and get yourself a copy. I really think this is going
0:24.8	to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big
0:30.8	guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode of the
0:36.9	Daily Motivation Show.
0:38.5	Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
0:49.7	I think one of the most important steps is what mentally strong couples don't do is they don't hesitate to set boundaries.
0:58.8	Yes.
0:59.4	And I think from the very beginning, we, I mean, I was very clear on my side that I needed boundaries in my relationship.
1:06.7	Yeah.
1:07.2	And I was clear with you that I didn't feel like I had those in previous relationships.
1:11.1	Same with you.
1:11.9	Yeah. And I was just like, this is who I was so, I was almost like trying to get you to run away from me, not in a bad way. But I was like, this is who I am. This is what I think. This is what I believe. This is how I act. This is how I behave. I'm not willing to do this. I am willing to do us.
1:07.8	I was like, I don't care what you think of me.
1:11.3	This is who I'm going to be. And take it or leave it, you know, type of mentality. It was so clear because, you know, in the past, you also dated very close to people. Yeah, I was just like I was never able to really be me without someone getting upset at me.
1:45.0	So I felt like I had to keep the peace by changing who I was all the time.
1:49.0	And it was exhausting trying to keep the peace.
1:51.9	And I think the best way to have peace in your life is to create boundaries and to hold onto those boundaries and just set a firm boundary on certain things. And I was just very clear
2:03.2	early on. And it's not like this was ever an issue that we had to address something, but I was like,
2:08.2	listen, one boundary for me is I will not be in a relationship where anyone screams, period. Oh yeah,
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