As Les Brown says,

other people's opinion of you

does not have to become your reality.

The truth is, all of us,

we get to decide who we are.

There's no objective truth that you're going to find or uncover.

You're simply the collection of the things that you believe to be true about yourself.

And once you begin to form that opinion of who you are,

you'll act in accordance with that belief.

You begin to shape a vision of yourself in your own mind,

and that becomes the reality.

So letting other people influence that,

letting other people come in and degrade what you think of yourself

is one of the most dangerous and damning things that you could do

because they cloud your ability to craft.

To craft a vision of the person that you want to become.

And that vision is so hard for all of us to hold on to,

that we have to protect it, we have to keep other people out of that.

We've got to have intention.

In creating the person that we want to become.

It's got to be deliberate.

It's not about trying to reflect what you think is true.

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