Peter, a podcast listener in Northern Ireland, writes in to ask of this.

My church is good and biblically solid, but has no suitable marriage prospects for

a single guy in his early 20s with a strong desire for marriage.

Pastor John is this situation an acceptable reason for me to leave my church in search

of another.

I think if I were talking to Peter, um, instead of immediately saying yes or no, I would

put before him some questions to ask and so maybe this will be helpful to him and to

other kind of questions would you ask in trying to make such a decision.

So here's number one, do my elders approve of my move?

Have they given their counsel?

Don't be a lone ranger Christian.

Seek wisdom from from those who know you and your and your situation best.

That's number one.

How much would I be missed?

How much harm would I do if I left?

How much am I needed here?

Be another question.

Here's the third one.

Will I honestly be able to throw myself into the ministry of a new church with an authentic

sense that I love the people here and I want to serve them or will I be tempted to feel

like I'm just using these people.

I'm just showing up here for reasons that don't have to do with so much of what the church

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