I Was a Time Out Magazine Bachelor (w/ Lauren Ashley Smith)
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Headgum & Nicole Byer
4.8 • 15.6K Ratings
🗓️ 20 June 2025
⏱️ 69 minutes
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Summary
TV writer Lauren Ashley Smith (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Smith Sisters Live) joins Nicole to talk about how she met her wife the old-fashioned way - through Time Out New York’s Singles issue.
Lauren reveals the strange public response to being a “bachelor” in a magazine, how her wife was one of the only white women working at BET, and the complications that came with planning an interracial lesbian wedding.
She also recalls a bizarre school Valentine’s Day test that matched students based on compatibility, and she and Nicole discuss who gets to keep the friends after a breakup. Plus, Nicole gets a magical hot massage and somehow walks away being fluent in Greek.
And Lauren shares one big piece of dating advice: why straight people should try dating more like lesbians -letting go of the gender roles getting in the way.
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| 0:00.0 | This is a headgum podcast. |
| 0:05.2 | Want to watch this episode? |
| 0:06.9 | Catch the full video on YouTube. |
| 0:08.9 | Just hit the link in the episode description. |
| 0:14.6 | Why won't you date me? |
| 0:20.6 | Why won't you date me? Why won't you date me? Why won't you date me? Why won't you date me? Please. |
| 0:26.4 | Tell me why. |
| 0:32.1 | Oh, baby. Welcome to another. Oh, my gosh. Leave all this in. Oh, baby! Welcome to another... Oh my gosh. |
| 0:39.5 | Leave all this in. |
| 0:40.9 | Oh, baby. |
| 0:41.7 | Welcome to another episode of Why Won't You Date Me a Podcast where me, Nicole Byer, |
| 0:45.0 | was trying to figure out why I was still single, |
| 0:47.2 | even though you could come in a line, chisel it up, |
| 0:49.8 | wrap it around a curtain, and say, |
| 0:51.4 | that's how you keep the sunlight in. |
| 0:53.9 | My guest today is an emmy |
| 0:56.1 | nominated tv writer and producer she was the head writer the first black female head writer of a show |
| 1:02.9 | a sketch show um a co-executive producer for hbo's emmy winning series a black lady sketch show |
| 1:09.5 | she currently co-hosts the gracie Award-winning Smith Sisters Live, |
| 1:13.1 | airing weekday mornings on Radio Andy, Sirius XM, and Channel 102. |
| 1:18.3 | And I recently saw a video where you're talking about Denzel Washington's little |
| 1:21.6 | itty-bitty daughter with her gigantic wife. |
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