I've just seen three coaching clients have real shifts, and none from meditation or from self-inquiry,

but from something that most people overlook and that if you miss it can absolutely keep you stuck for decades. So these three

clients told me they resonated with the way I work. So my approach is to help people to stop

abandoning themselves. And that's within a container of deep attuned presence.

And what I notice is there's almost always a subtle resistance to elements of people's inner

experience.

So one of my clients had deep grief and sadness

and frustration towards people and circumstances.

But what was going on was the mind was projecting the feelings into his current scenario

even though the deeper feelings themselves went all the way back to childhood

now I imagine you've heard about the importance of accepting feelings.

But accepting isn't enough.

When I took my two-year-old daughter to the dentist

and she started really panicking because there were nurses walking around with masks.

And I held her like this.

I'm not abandoning you.

Now, if I had just accepted her fear, there would have been more of a slight begrudging element.

Like, okay, I know you feel like this.

Come on, it's okay, feel better.

And there's a different quality to that energy.

But that wasn't my experience or my intention at all.

It was an absolute privilege to be with her in that moment.

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