I told my new wife I didn't care if she cheated on me.

Needless to say, I think I really screwed up.

I told my wife I didn't mind if she cheated on me.

She was understandably shocked and confused.

She asked me multiple times about this to try to understand what I meant.

I took it as her being interested in opening up our relationship.

I had no interest in other women, but I wanted her to be happy and have fun.

So I sent her a list of boundaries, example no babies or STDs and either of us could close

and go back to monogamy at any time.

Things like that.

I further screwed up by saying she didn't have to tell me what she did.

She told me a guy at work had given her his number and she asked if it was okay to talk

to him.

And I said yes.

Over the past few months, she got closer and closer to him.

I was struggling at work and wasn't able to provide her the attention she needed.

She came to me multiple times asking if I was okay with this.

I now know she was trying to see if I cared about her.

Eventually they did it.

And she came to me and said she felt so guilty.

I was upset but unwilling to admit that to her.

And I told her not to worry and it wasn't my fault if she felt guilty for it.

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