I Thought Boundaries Were Selfish - PROTECT with Bianca Olthoff

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com

Self-improvement, Relationships, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity, Society & Culture

4.9 • 757 Ratings

🗓️ 24 September 2024

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

Why do so many Christians struggle with boundaries? We are taught that boundaries are wrong, sinful, or selfish — and that we should always say YES and be ready to sacrifice and serve at a moment’s notice. But is this really the way of Jesus? Or could this lead us down a path of emotional burnout, codependency, and unhealthy relationships? Today, we continue this Soul Care series with an on-air counseling session with my friend, Bianca Olthoff. Bianca has been on the podcast before, processing pain from the past (listen here if you missed it!) but today we dive into the topic of BOUNDARIES and learning to protect your heart and calling. Bianca shares how she lived so many years with low to no boundaries, and the damage that caused in her life and in her relationships. We talk about her childhood, and how the concept of low boundaries began to take root in her life…and followed her into adulthood. It’s probably my favorite conversation on the Soul Care series so far, and I know it will challenge and change you!! If boundaries have been a weakness for you, you HAVE TO make time to listen to this episode from start to finish! Setting healthy boundaries is the Jesus way. Find out how! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She’s also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:23.1	This has been one of the hardest seasons of my life, but this idea and tenet of protect
0:28.9	has never been more real, more profound, more, more 3D, 4D.
0:35.0	It's like scratch and sniff, because I realized the danger of even using and believing
0:40.4	scripture as like enduring and persevering when something is hurting you. Yeah. And so my boundaries were
0:50.3	set really low. And I am at the place of my life where I could, I want to love everyone.
0:57.7	I want to love even those who have hurt me. There's a string of people. The more that I'm in
1:01.8	leadership, the more than I'm in ministry, the string gets longer. The line gets longer of people
1:05.5	that have hurt me. But at the same time, I am learning that two truths could coexist, that I could love somebody
1:12.4	while also setting a boundary to protect myself.
1:22.4	Are you ready to talk to me?
1:24.7	My name is Deborah Felata and I'm a licensed professional counselor,
1:28.7	national speaker, and author. Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the privilege of
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