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I'm 11. Natalie, welcome to the program. How can I help? I have been married for 28 and a half years. I'm sorry 21 and a half years.

And 90 days into our marriage, I found out my husband had been cheating on me through the whole time he was dating me and married to me.

And that was devastating. I had moved from another state, filled my home. Okay, stupid question of the day. Stupid go cops stop the whining of no friends. It's called the telephone.

21 years. You stayed with a guy you found out was screwing with you the whole time you were dating and you got married and you stayed around.

I am a kind of after we were married. Yes, I understand that and you stayed around. Okay. Yes, why? That was your time to hit the eject button.

I tried to several times and I even. Ma ma ma ma. That there is no trying. There's only getting a divorce and moving away. There isn't trying.

That's so you know, you lost all rights to complain about the next two decades that you wasted. I did. Yes. But it's totally your decision.

So what is it you want to complain about now? Seriously.

Nothing. Did you call to tell me something bad about him now? No, I just called to find out why I'm so afraid to leave.

What difference does it make? Why? Tell me what difference that would make if I came up with some cockamama answer. What difference would it make?

Well, there's got to be something about me that. What difference does it make? I asked you a question answer my question. What difference does it make? Why?

No, it doesn't mean anything. You either do something because you know it. You either do something because you know it has to be done as uncomfortable as it is. The answer is you can't bear to be uncomfortable.

Whether it's change, embarrassment, whatever it is. It doesn't matter what it is. It's uncomfortable. And you would rather live as a victim than be uncomfortable.

Because to do something other than what you're doing and have been doing for two freaking decades would have made you uncomfortable, but you discomfort would have ended as soon as you got acclimated to your new life. It doesn't matter why that's an excuse a lot of people. I'm going to go into therapy and find out why and when I find out why then I'll be able to change wrong.

Okay. That's just real waste of time. It's called procrastination.

Which I've never wanted. Well, there you are. This is your life. Yes.

It's a choice. You make a choice every day.

That's true.

So stop asking why it doesn't matter.

Very true.

If you came from certain cultures, all I would have to do is tell you, well, those are curse on you and I've lifted the curse.

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