"I Spent 8 Years Searching For Closure"
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 28 December 2023
⏱️ 57 minutes
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Summary
TW: This conversation may triggering for those with sensitivities around sexual assault. I’m joined by a 30-year-old anonymous guest who opens up about searching for closure for eight years after her five-year relationship ended. She shares how she reconnected with him after not speaking for years, and we hear how she learned that closure is something you cannot get from someone else. Finally, we have a serious and candid conversation about our experiences with sexual assault.
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| 0:00.0 | This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation. |
| 0:04.8 | Hey guys, it's Alana and you're listening to seeing other people unfiltered. |
| 0:09.9 | It's Thursday, so that means real-life daters are coming on to share their real, sometimes shocking, and always unfiltered experiences. |
| 0:17.8 | Think you're alone out there? |
| 0:19.0 | Think you're the only one whose ex hooked up with your mom |
| 0:21.5 | or whose last date ended up being a catfish? Think again. So I'm anonymous. I'm 30 years old and I'm |
| 0:29.2 | actually here to talk about why you don't actually need closure for certain relationships. |
| 0:36.9 | Ooh, we are a myth busting today. I love it. And this is something |
| 0:42.2 | that I feel like a lot of people or most people when they get out of relationships, the first |
| 0:49.0 | thought is, okay, how do I find closure? Or probably even before that, well, I don't have closure. I need it. |
| 0:55.9 | I want to start by asking, what is your definition of closure? |
| 1:00.3 | My definition of closure would be anything that can make you feel at peace with a situation. |
| 1:06.7 | It doesn't necessarily mean that you need anybody else's thoughts or their opinion. |
| 1:13.1 | It's more so how you feel about the situation to be able to move on. |
| 1:19.2 | Is there one specific situation that led you to this belief or were there a few different ones? |
| 1:26.6 | So I would say the main thing that led me to this decision is actually the relationship I had |
| 1:34.8 | from 16 to 21. |
| 1:36.5 | Again, I'm 30 now. |
| 1:38.8 | But when I dated this kid, I was, you know, 16 to 21. |
| 1:45.4 | It was your normal, very toxic relationship. |
| 1:49.4 | And it wasn't because we were necessarily bad people. |
| 1:54.4 | It was just mainly because of where we were and our mindsets at that time. |
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