I Set a Boundary... Now What? (Dealing with the Fallout Of A Narcissist)
The Mental Healness Podcast
Lee Hammock
4.9 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 18 February 2026
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
The fallout of a boundary is usually a war. Here is how to survive it.You watched yesterday’s video on the 3 Ways to Set Boundaries with a Narcissist, but now you’re living through the reaction. Why do they get more aggressive when you say "no"? Why does a simple boundary lead to a smear campaign or a week of silence?As a self-aware narcissist, I’m breaking down the "punishment phase" from the inside out. In today's LIVE, we are discussing:The Smear Campaign: Why they tell everyone you're the "abuser" the moment you set a limit.Guilt Tripping: How they use your empathy to make you feel bad for having needs.The Escalation: Why things get worse before they get better (The Extinction Burst).Live Q&A: I’ll be translating your specific situations in real-time.Don't let their reaction bait you back into the cycle. Let’s talk about how to hold the line.
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| 0:00.0 | So yesterday I gave you three ways to set boundaries with a narcissist or toxic person. |
| 0:08.7 | Today, we're talking about the war that starts after you say no. |
| 0:14.5 | After you set that boundary, after you put a stop to whatever it's been going on, |
| 0:19.9 | or you try to put a stop to it, right? |
| 0:22.0 | Because when you set a boundary with a narcissist or a very highly toxic person, they don't say, thank you. |
| 0:28.9 | Thank you so much for that boundary. |
| 0:30.9 | It made me love you even more. |
| 0:33.6 | I love the fact did you set that boundary with me. |
| 0:37.3 | I enjoy boundaries, especially when they're set by you. |
| 0:43.0 | They don't say that now, do they? No, most times, after you start a boundary, they'll start a smear campaign. |
| 0:50.9 | They'll start to use the kids as weapons or or or big or they'll go into silent |
| 0:57.4 | treatment to punish you or they go to some narcissistic rage. They start throwing a damn |
| 1:02.8 | narcissistic temper tantrum. Of course, y'all, if y'all knew here, I'm a Le Hammock. I'm a |
| 1:07.3 | diagnosis. And today I'm telling you why narcissistic people react this |
| 1:12.3 | way when you set a boundary and how to stay strong when they try to break your lines. When they |
| 1:18.0 | try to break through it and whatnot. So that's what we're talking about today, y'all. What is going on? |
| 1:23.6 | Welcome to the live. Welcome to the live. Welcome to the live. Ashley, what's up? |
| 1:43.8 | Angela, what's going on? But yeah, y'all, if you didn't watch yesterday's video about three ways to set a boundary with the narcissist, make sure you go check that out. Make sure you check that out. What is going on, Jeanette, thankfully, for, oh, yeah, I just had a one-on-one with her the other day. So yay, what's going on? |
| 1:46.2 | We did a one-on-one after she was live. |
| 1:46.3 | So y'all, as you I just had a one-on-one with her the other day. So, yay, what's going on? We did a one-on-one after she was live. |
| 1:54.8 | So, y'all, as you know, to a narcissist, setting a boundary is abusive to them. |
| 2:05.2 | Like, a narcissist will consider you setting a boundary or telling them no, telling them that you don't like something. They will consider that abuse and they will try to make it seem like you are an abuser. |
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