One of my relationships years ago, just knowing that I should have said no in a moment with someone that I was dating, and I said yes.

I knew that he wasn't the right person for me.

I knew that when I saw certain things, I should have just gone the other way, but I just was compelled saying, okay, maybe it's not what I saw, maybe it's not what I think.

And then I said yes.

And that relationship became really abusive.

And even years later, when I knew I should have set healthier boundaries,

I would still make myself available.

We have a child out of that relationship and I would feel like,

well, I have to say yes because now it's not about me, now it's about my son.

And I felt like now I'm realizing that no, it was because I didn't really know how to just stand firm on boundaries and say no.

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My name is Deborah Felata and I'm a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and author.

Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the privilege of helping millions of people get healthy mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.

The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic,

counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests

and callers an opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor. Each of these

episodes is meant to show you that we are all on the journey of healing,

mentally, emotionally, spiritually and relationally, together. None of us are immune to the

challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone. I'm so proud and honored to be having these conversations

with men and women who are courageously paving the way for open and honest conversations

about their personal journey of healing. So if you're ready, let's talk.

Today on the podcast, I am excited to have Allison from New York joining us. Hi, Allison. Hi, Debra.

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