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I live in the People's Republic of California. I'm trying to leave this state. What I have a problem

with is it's kind of financial and life career as well. So right now I'm a federal

government employee. I am seven years out from retirement or when I'm eligible. My wife is a nurse.

She makes really good money in California and they make her running for $90 an hour. My goal is to

one, so my house, transfer to a different position and to a different state within the same agency.

Just because I have a very toxic work environment going on right now and I just need to get out.

But the problem is if my wife leaves the state of California, she'd go from $90 an hour to $30 an hour, which is a huge financial cut.

She'd also probably lose her 401K as well as that. We did talk about doing foster to adopt in the event that we did move. But my question to you,

I guess, is am I just being cutting my nose off to spite my face and just I just deal with it,

knowing the fact that I have seven years old to retirement. My house will be paid off in four years.

You sound like you're at the end of your, like, rope. You sound really frustrated.

Oh, I am.

I'm very frustrated.

Yes, I'm very frustrated.

I've wanted to transfer and get out of the state for 17 years of my career.

Does your wife want to leave as well?

Besides the money, I know she'll take a pay cut, but just in general?

Her family's here, but she realizes

how frustrated I am. And like I said, my boss is just utterly horrible right now. And it's been going

on for a long time. Oh yeah. Yes, it has. So my question to you is my being emotionally stupid

by wanting to leave just so I can quote unquote have a more

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